On the Internet we meet different people from different countries with different backgrounds
The chance of meeting someone from far away but with the same mind-set of people around you, which you probably are running away from is rare … well, it happened to me!! I met that guy!!!! I really liked him and considered him as a friend but he preferred to forget all about it when I refused to give him my real name (as he claimed)!!!! I was using real second name, it’s real in sense that @ home they call me (….)
We’ve been talking to each other on msn for almost 9 months … he is from UK and I’m from UAE, so you can see the big difference! However, he is very much exposed to Arabs by living in London, and has been so many times to Dubai … I guess that’s why he is acting like one of them!!
Few days ago when I was in Dubai, we had the following conversation:
What’s your real name?
You know it
No I don’t... Tell me your real name
(….) is one of my names
You don’t trust me do you?
Who said anything about trust … it has nothing to do with trust!
Early this week we had the same conversation but with more accusations and I don’t see him anymore online!! He was a very good friend and I like him …
Aren’t you gonna tell me your real name?
I told you my real name and you know it already do you think I’m lying?
I’m sure you have another name? why don’t you trust me?
Please don’t talk about trust, we know each other since almost last year and it’s enough for anyone to figure out if the other person is good, nice and honest or not
If you think that I’m a nice guy why you wanna hide your real name and your looks?! I wanna see you as well and talk to you… if you don't then you must have a bf
…etc
I tried to explain to him that it’s not easy for me to do that and he said that if I’m so open and talk to different people online then I should be willing to do whatever others are not doing! Then immediately he started guessing why I’m not willing to disclose my real name and go and meet him in public … he actually thought that I have a boyfriend (BF) and that’s why I’m not willing to go deep with him and talk about feelings!!! Can you imagine that?!
I never thought that men from foreign countries think the same way … even if h/they are right; a girl doesn’t have to tell everyone about her personal life, in fact no one should do that; we have to respect others privacy.
How far would you go on with online friends?
The minute you start apologizing for not providing a piece of information, you are accused of not trusting the other person.
If you immediately answer a personal question such as “what is your name?” you’ll be accused of being a liar!!!
Is it selfish to avoid talking about your personal life with online friends even though you’ve mentioned that at the beginning of the 1stconversation you had, and even though they are willing to share theirs with you?
2 comments:
I am an Arab female and I thought your story was quite interesting, not to mention your charachter. You have been knowing each other for almost a year and you still think it is unbelievable for that guy to want to know your real name?!! You must be kidding. Of course he has the right to think this way about you. He also has the right to step away from a relationship where the woman wants to remain anonymous. Remember he is not an Arab for you to fear the possiblity of stigmatizing you. He is from a different culture, which means, by knowing your name, he will not cause you a scandal in your community circle. Tara
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i don't wanna remain anonymous and at the same time i can't just meet everyone i meed on the internet!!
what about the "trust" part ... do you think he is right about it?
Thank you Tara
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